When our little ones enter the world, many of us expect them to just "sleep like a baby." But reality? It’s often a different story. Both parents and babies end up overtired, and in an effort to help, we introduce sleep props—things like rocking, nursing, pacifiers, or swaddles. These can quickly become sleep crutches, meaning your baby relies on them to fall asleep and needs them every time they wake up.
So the big question is: How long do you want to keep replacing that pacifier, rocking them back to sleep, or nursing every time they stir? Maybe it’s time to help your little one learn to sleep without it.
Common Sleep Crutches (and How to Break the Habit!)
YOU (Mom or Dad!)
Let’s be real—many of us have been here. I became my son’s sleep crutch until I worked with a Sleep Consultant to help him sleep independently. If your little one depends on rocking, nursing, bouncing, or walking to fall asleep, they haven’t yet learned how to self-soothe. The good news? You can teach them! Try using a consistent response method that reassures them without picking them up, helping them learn that their crib is a safe and comfy place.
Pacifier
Babies naturally soothe by sucking, which makes pacifiers helpful—but also tricky. If your little one wakes up crying because the pacifier fell out, you’re stuck playing the “pacifier replacement game” all night. The fastest solution? Go cold turkey. For younger babies, just stop offering it. For older kids, make it fun—some parents throw a "bye-bye paci" party or trade it for a special toy. Expect a few rough nights, but stay consistent, and soon, the pacifier will be a thing of the past.
Swaddle
Swaddling is a lifesaver for newborns, but once your baby starts rolling, it’s time to transition. You can go two ways:
Fast: Stop swaddling completely and switch to a sleep sack (this is my favorite!).
Slow: Unswaddle one arm at a time over a few nights, then transition to a sleep sack.
Milk (Nursing/Bottle)
A full belly makes for a sleepy baby—we’ve all felt that post-holiday meal drowsiness! But if your little one depends on nursing or a bottle to sleep, they may overeat, spit up more, or develop reflux. Try shifting feedings to after wake-ups instead of before naps. The only exception? The bedtime feeding—just move it to the start of the bedtime routine instead of using it as the final step.
Stuffed Animal, Doll, or Lovey
Soft loveys can be comforting, and some even mimic a parent’s heartbeat. But before introducing one, consider:
Safe Sleep: To reduce the risk of SIDS, babies should sleep alone—no toys, blankets, or extras in the crib until they’re at least 1 year old (remember the ABCs of safe sleep: Alone, on their Back, in a Crib).
Attachment: If your little one needs a specific stuffed animal to sleep, what happens if it’s lost? Or keeps falling out of bed?
The Bottom Line
Breaking sleep crutches isn’t always easy—your baby will protest, and that’s normal! But with patience, persistence, and a solid plan, they’ll learn to sleep independently. And if you need support? You don’t have to do it alone. We’re here to help!
Sweet dreams,
Jennie Clarke
Certified Child Sleep Consultant
Smart Night Sleep
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